You’ve decided to make it your business to help others be better at – something! That’s cool; so am I. One of the more common character traits for people like us is our pursuit of perfection. I recognized it in me and deal with it all the time. Now, I’d like to help you do the same…
Pursuit of Perfection: The Ultimate Pitfall
There are two extremes to the peril of perfection. The first is the pursuit of perfection, which is the fastest and surest route to failure. The other is being vague and unsure of oneself; this is the slowest, but as sure a route to failure as well. Both lead to frustration, wasted time, and often lots of wasted money. Let’s start with perfection…
If you feel in your own mind that you’ve achieved perfection – congratulations. That makes one of you. However, if you’re expecting the rest of us (meaning everyone else in the world) to agree, you are on the wrong train track. Trust me, we’ll find a flaw somewhere. Nothing is perfect in the eyes of others. So, if the opinions, judgments, and acceptance of others are required for you to make a living, the wise course is to set a course for as-close-to-perfect-as-possible, as it benefits those you serve. This provides a natural segue to the other end of the perfection spectrum – vagueness and uncertainty.
These are sure signs of having a lack of either confidence or knowledge or both. A person who knows what they’re doing does it. Oftentimes a person possesses the expertise and knowledge but lacks the surety and confidence to set a course. They have the train of thought stoked and ready to go but can’t quite commit to which track to put it on. Why? Usually it’s because they are struggling to achieve perfection! Sometimes the mind can be such a torture chamber!
As a healer, coach, or counselor we deal with human beings. They’ve hired us to help them. In the process of helping them, it’s important to remember that they can help us as well. Most clients appreciate being a part of the process. When gripped with uncertainty over which direction or course to take, the right thing and professional thing to do is get the client in on the act. It doesn’t have to be done in a way that projects a lack of confidence or indecisiveness. Just the opposite is true. “Client, I’ve come upon several different approaches, all of which have a degree of merit, and I’d like to share them with you.” What client wouldn’t love to hear that? We all love options.
Helping healers, coaches, and counselors make better decisions without being shackled by the illusion of perfection is just one of the ways Healers U betters those who betters others.